Article © Arun Maji///
Painting: William Adolphe Bouguereau///
We often fall for love then something happens and we fall apart. Then we whine- love hurts. How true is that? Let’s examine- what is love! Let’s examine what we fell for in first place!
Love is what we all are. Love is our soul. We are product of love; the whole creation is product of love. Without love there is no existence. Love is ingrained in us. Love is the soul and love is the extension of our soul. Then you may ask me- if love is ingrained in us then why are we not more loving and caring? Yes it’s a valid question.
To have something is one thing, and to utilise that thing is another thing! You may have billion dollars sitting in your bank account but you can be too miser to go for a holiday. You may have talent for painting but you are too lazy to do the hard work of practice to make you Vinci!
For love too, we can be- too miser, too selfish, too lazy and too blind. Though love is ingrained in us yet we don’t use it. We don’t use love because our selfishness makes us blind to see the elegance and opulence of love. Then, we are conditioned to those fear and rumour. We often say- “love hurts”! Tell me- what doesn’t hurt! Life hurts, chest hurts, leg hurts and even your wealth hurts you! If you posses something, it’s bound to hurt you. To have is to be hurt.
Next, let me examine- why love hurts! A true love is something which is you. A true love is extension of your soul. And your soul has the capacity to be expanded to this universe. That’s why in some traditional philosophy, it’s said that- we are part of the soul of the creator. And the soul of the creator is extended to this universe. It means- it is your very nature to love, just for sake of love. Love’s purpose is love; love’s purpose is more love. If your love has any other purpose than love, then it’s not love. Now I know, I am hurting you with bitter truth. Please forgive me. So you challenge me now, you ask me- “hey man, are you the man of this world or a dream world”? Well, if dream is the only way to bring happiness to this world, then why don’t we go for that dream? Let me guarantee you this- if you are too blind to see the beauty, elegance and opulence of love then be sure- you will cause yourself immense pain and suffering. You will hurt yourself but you won’t have any healing power. Because it’s only the love and love’s derivatives like- kindness, care, compassion which have healing capacity.
So what is it, you fall for? Is that a love? Ask yourself honestly. If it is, then be sure- it won’t hurt you! Even if it hurts you, you would definitely heal yourself soon. But if you fall for external charm, beauty, wealth, pleasure etc. then be sure to know, that those things will be lost sooner or later. And then your so called love will vanish. And that parting will not be a smooth one. There will be tears, there will be blood! Because you expect something and you may not get it. Purpose of your love was something else than love. This will hurt you- you will be angry, you will be disappointed, you will be depressed and you will be mad.
To sum it up- love is there with you and the universe, as they are born into existence. We just need to break the wall of our selfishness so that our soul (which is love itself) can grow into this universe. We really need to know what true love is. We can’t have materialistic purpose like gain, pleasure, wealth as purpose of love. Then be sure, love will hurt you; it will hurt you a lot. The only certain way, you can be truly happy is to love more. We can learn to love every moment by being more caring, kind and compassionate to other thing and being of this universe. Love is absolute. It doesn’t happen that you love your son but hate your neighbour, yet you call it love! Either you love everybody or you don’t. What you show as a love to your son, is just another relationship of comfort and materialistic purpose. And that sort of love in future turns to vicious relationship when that son is parted from father, some way or the other.
Please note- not to love is not to have a soul. And not to have a soul is not to have an existence- it’s like we are walking dead-corpse!
I love you all.